A wedding RSVP website where every reply lands in one place
An RSVP built into your wedding invitation. Households reply once, with meals, allergies and a song each, and every reply goes to your own dashboard.
A wedding RSVP website lets each household reply once, online: who is coming, what each person will eat, any allergies, and a song for the dance floor. At Tying The Knot the reply form is part of your invitation, and every reply reaches your private dashboard the moment it is sent, with the dietary list, the song list and a table plan ready for your venue and your DJ.
If a plain reply form is all you need, free tools do it well, and this page says which. It also covers what to ask, how to handle the afters, and when your reply-by date should be.
What should a wedding RSVP ask?
Ask for what you need to plan, and nothing more. For each guest:
- whether they are coming
- what they will eat, from the options you have set
- any dietary needs or allergies
- a song for the dance floor, if they would like one
If you have a weekend or an afters, add which parts of the day the household will be at. If children are invited, ask how many are coming.
Venues ask for the rest. Amber Springs, for one, wants every guest named, with allergies, intolerances and coeliac needs beside the name and highchairs marked (its final details guide, checked 12 October 2026).
How does a household reply in one go?
One person replies for the whole household. They add each name, then answer for each person: attending or not, meal, dietary and allergy needs, and a song. Nobody makes an account. They open the link from a WhatsApp message, a text or an email, reply on their phone and send it.
That matters at Irish scale. Couples in Weddings Online's December 2025 survey (1,014 couples, one directory's users, so a guide only) averaged 141 guests. That is a lot of households to chase through WhatsApp and a spreadsheet.
Paper adds up. Since 3 February 2026, An Post stamps cost €1.85 within Ireland, €3.50 to Britain and the rest of Europe, and €3.95 to the rest of the world (An Post, checked 12 October 2026). A reply card posted back costs the guest a stamp. A reply on your site costs the guest nothing.
How do you handle day guests and evening guests (the afters)?
Most Irish weddings have two guest lists: the people who come for the day and the meal, and the people who join in the evening for the band and the late food. You need two numbers, not one. The day number is your meal count and the one for the table plan. The evening number is the headcount for the afters.
Invitation sellers treat the evening as its own item. Evite You, which sells digital invitations in Ireland, prices evening invitations separately, at €12 generic or €35 personalised (checked 12 October 2026). The same thinking helps here: two groups, two messages, two counts.
On a Tying The Knot reply, the household ticks the parts of the day it will be at. In Rachel & Mark's example (Co. Kildare) the question reads "Which parts will you be at?", with the ceremony, the dinner, the band and afters, and Sunday lunch as separate choices. Those answers arrive in your dashboard with the rest of the reply, so you can count the day and the evening separately.
Say plainly which part of the day is theirs, and write to evening guests as warmly as to everyone else:
We would love you to join us for the evening, from 9pm, for the band and the afters. Please reply by [reply-by date], so we can give the venue our final numbers.
How should you ask about dietary needs and allergies?
Use a tick-list for the common needs and a box for anything else. In the Tying The Knot examples the list reads, for instance, coeliac, dairy-free, vegan, nut allergy and shellfish allergy, with a box for anything else the kitchen should know.
Be careful what you collect, and why. The Data Protection Commission lists data concerning health, and religious or philosophical beliefs, among the special categories of personal data (DPC, checked 12 October 2026). A dietary need can point to either: an allergy is a health matter, and a meal restriction can be religious. So:
- ask only what your venue and caterer need
- say why you are asking, and who will see the answers
- leave religion off the form, since you do not need it to plan a meal
- keep what you ask about children to the minimum, such as how many are coming
In your Tying The Knot dashboard the dietary and allergy list shows each guest's table, so the kitchen can see who needs what and where they are sitting. Our guide to RSVPs and dietary requirements goes further.
How do song requests work?
Each guest can request a song for the dance floor when they reply, so your quietest cousin and your loudest friend both get a say. The dashboard collects the requests into one song list for your DJ or band.
Treat the list as ideas, not orders. Tell your DJ what you do want played and what you would rather not hear. Keep your first dance and last song for yourselves: the requests are for the hours in between.
When should your reply-by date be?
Work backwards from your venue's final numbers date. Four venues publish theirs. This is what their own pages said on 12 October 2026:
| Venue | Numbers | Table plan |
|---|---|---|
| Castlemartyr Resort | Anticipated numbers 14 days before, final numbers 7 days before | Electronic format, no later than 4 days before |
| Amber Springs | Draft numbers and menu choices 2 weeks before, final numbers no later than 72 hours before | Completed plan 1 week before, through Moposa, with every guest named and 10 guests at most per table |
| Lord Bagenal Inn | At least 2 weeks before, final count 1 week before | Your wedding consultant liaises with you on seating |
| Clontarf Castle | Not stated on its FAQ page | Round tables of 8 to 12 guests |
Your own venue's date is the one that counts, so ask for it in writing. Then leave time to chase. Our suggestion is a reply-by date at least four weeks before the wedding.
Weddings Online's invitation wording guide advises including a reply-by date and offering as many ways to reply as you like, such as text, email or post (checked 12 October 2026). A phone number or email address on the invitation catches the guests who will not use a link. Plain wording is enough:
Please reply by [reply-by date], so we can give the venue our final numbers.
What happens to the replies?
Your dashboard is private to the two of you. It has:
- every reply, the moment it is sent
- your guest list by household
- who has replied and who has not, with reminders to chase
- the dietary and allergy list, with each guest's table
- the song list for your DJ or band
- the table plan: choose table types (round, long, top table, sweetheart), seats per table and the room layout, then drag guests' names onto tables, or tap a guest and then a table
Download the plan as a picture (PNG) and as a CSV spreadsheet with each guest's name, table, and dietary and allergy needs, to send to your hotel or venue. If your venue takes its table plan through its own system, as Amber Springs does through Moposa, you will enter the plan there, and the CSV gives you the list to copy from. The table plan page has more.
Is a free RSVP tool enough?
Often, yes. On 12 October 2026 these were free to couples:
- Hitched.ie lists RSVP with menu choices, plus a free guest manager that tracks RSVPs and a free table planner (Hitched.ie).
- Weddings Online lists RSVP with meals, dietary needs and song requests (Weddings Online).
- weddings.ie lists digital or printable invitations with RSVP tracking and dietary questions (weddings.ie).
- Bridebook Ireland lists RSVP by email, with dietary preferences (Bridebook Ireland).
- Moposa, if your venue uses it, gives you RSVPs with meals, diet and songs, and a seating plan sent to the venue. The venue pays, and couples cannot sign up directly (Moposa).
Ask your venue first. If it uses Moposa, you may already have what you need.
What a free tool does not give you is a film-led invitation made for your venue, with the reply form inside it and your replies, dietary list, song list and table plan in one dashboard. That is what Tying The Knot adds. The full comparison sets the options side by side.
How Tying The Knot handles this
The RSVP is part of a Tying The Knot invitation site, not a separate product. The price is €750 including VAT, for a year online, and it also covers the silent AI-assisted film, the invitation site, the guest travel planner, a calendar file, two rounds of changes and a web address.
See the pricing page, try an example on your phone, or get started.
Sources, checked 12 October 2026
- Amber Springs, final details guide
- Castlemartyr Resort, wedding packages 2027
- Lord Bagenal Inn, frequently asked questions
- Clontarf Castle, frequently asked questions
- Data Protection Commission, special category data
- An Post, stamp price changes, press release of 12 January 2026
- Weddings Online, invitation wording guide
- Weddings Online, the 2025 Irish wedding survey
- Evite You, pricing
- Hitched.ie, wedding website, guest manager and table planner
- Weddings Online, wedding website
- weddings.ie
- Bridebook Ireland, wedding website
- Moposa, for couples
Questions people ask
What should a wedding RSVP ask guests?
For each guest: whether they are coming, what they will eat from the options you set, any dietary needs or allergies, and a song for the dance floor if they want one. Add which parts of the day they will attend if you have a weekend or an afters, and how many children are coming. Ask only what you and your venue need to plan, and say why you are asking.
How does a household reply on a Tying The Knot invitation?
One person replies for the whole household, in one go. They add each name, then answer for each person: attending or not, meal, dietary and allergy needs, and a song request. Guests need no app and no account. They open the link from WhatsApp, a text or an email, reply on their phone, and the reply reaches your dashboard the moment it is sent.
How do I handle evening (afters) guests?
Keep two lists and two counts: the day guests, who need a meal and a seat, and the evening guests, who come for the band and the late food. Tell evening guests plainly which part of the day is theirs and when to arrive. On a Tying The Knot reply, the household ticks which parts of the day it will be at, so you can count the day and the evening separately.
Can guests request songs when they RSVP?
Yes. Every guest named on a reply can request a song for the dance floor, so your quietest cousin and your loudest friend both get a say. The requests are collected into a song list in your dashboard, ready to hand to your DJ or band. Treat them as ideas, and keep your first dance and last song for yourselves.
When should the RSVP deadline be?
Work back from your venue's final numbers date. On 12 October 2026 Castlemartyr Resort asked for final numbers 7 days before the wedding, Lord Bagenal Inn 1 week before, and Amber Springs 72 hours before, with draft numbers 2 weeks before. Our suggestion is a reply-by date at least four weeks before the wedding, which leaves time to chase.
Is a free RSVP tool enough?
Often, yes. On 12 October 2026 Hitched.ie, Bridebook Ireland, weddings.ie and Weddings Online each offered RSVP free to couples, and several add meal choices, dietary questions or song requests. Tying The Knot suits couples who want the reply form inside a film-led invitation made for their venue, with replies, dietary list, song list and table plan in one dashboard, for €750 including VAT.
Where do I see the replies and the dietary list?
In your dashboard, which is private to the two of you. It shows every reply the moment it is sent, your guest list by household, who has and has not replied, and reminders to chase. It also has the dietary and allergy list with each guest's table, the song list, and a table plan you can download as a picture (PNG) and a CSV spreadsheet for your venue.
